It’s been a while…

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… and meanwhile we have changed seasons (sort of) and  the Olympics have arrived in my city!! 

I’ve come to the conclusion that time is just moving too fast… or I’m just not updating my Blog enough. *clears throat*

Well, still buzzed from the Olympic opening ceremony last night (I could even hear the fireworks from my home) I thought I’d give you all a treat by updating not once but TWICE in one day! The second post is entitled ’5 Ways to avoid writing that book’ and I’m sure the writers among you will know about the lure of procrastination. But if you’re like me, once you start writing your novel NOTHING can stop you.

The discipline, belief and hard work needed to fulfil the task just takes over.

So, enjoy the Olympics everyone! (plus my SECOND post of the day!)

London 2012!

 

 

Guest Blogger Nadine Adrian Alice talks ‘books, broken hearts… & Cupcakes!’

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Nadine Adrian Alice

Ever had a broken heart?

This month, Nadine Adrian Alice (currently in canada but soon to hit UK shores)  fills in for me by talking about a few things which helped heal her broken heart.  These include books… and cupcakes (wow, two of my favorite things!).  This is a real treat and a piece some (if not all of us) can relate to!

Take it away Nadine….

I started last year asking anyone and everyone this two part question: Have you ever had your heart broken; how did you get over it.  I was determined to get over he who I love loved.

In my search, I was running away from the truth that I still loved him.  What to do?  Well I listened intently to all those who said yes to the question.  Guys, girls, straight couples, same sex couples.  They all had experienced severe heartbreak.  And they all agreed getting over it was difficult and that I couldn’t escape the hurt and feelings. 

I thought not living in the same country as him would help so I moved away. Wrong.

I baked a ton of cupcakes.  And I can’t lie – this did help some.

I read a bunch of books to help me escape, including While You Were Dreaming, by the faboosh Ms. Jaye herself.  Oh how I wished I would wake up from this hurt and have my own Michael waiting for me.   I did learn one thing though – part of me was mourning an ‘imagined version’ of the relationship I had just exited. 

These imagined moments were hopeful moments I had conjured up in my mind.  For example – weekend getaways; waking up in his arms and snuggling Saturday mornings away, dancing to Bob Marley’s “I Don’t Want To Wait In Vain For Your Love” on a grey and drizzly Sunday afternoon.

I soon realized that I was mourning a lost HOPE, not necessarily the real lived experience of the relationship.  A big difference. This realization put my heartache into perspective.   So here I am mourning a hope unfulfilled.   But if hope is eternal – I can put my trust in the faith that Hope will bring love again.

The backstory of my heaviest heartache reads like the perfect chick flick.  We met in primary school aged 4, lived on the same council estate.  He was on the climbing frame.

Dialogue as follows:

Him:  Let me see your knickers

Me:  O.k.

Fast forward 29ish years later via an email from him:

Him – Nad’s I fancied you the whole of primary school

Me:  Shut up.  I totally crushed on Craig Geddes. (a.k.a. Not you).

Him:  Do you remember showing me your knickers?

Me:  Eh.  I’m not that kind of girl – my milkshake ain’t for the boys in the yard.

Him: I remember your cornrows and skinny arms

Me: skinny arms – sure you got the right girl.

Him:  I know I do… you’ve always been my Nad’s

And it was from here we both agreed we had found the ONE.  So how could it end with so much brokenness?

In my quest to get over him I read the book, “ It’s Called A Break Up Because It’s Broken”.  I was so proud of my proactive, getting over hurt self.  But by page 53 – I’d had enough of the book – it was reminding me of what I knew – I was hurting – and by focusing on the break up I was focusing on him and the sadness too much.   I wanted to free my mind of him and get over him. The only successful advice I carried out from the book was not to contact him for 60 days.   I called on the 61st however.

It is now a whole year later. Recently, I wrote the DO NOT SEND letter.  You know the one where you pour out your truth and heart to him and then burn it.  Unfortunately I sent it.

But – this letter turned out to be my breakthrough.  When I read that letter back to myself I learned that in trying so hard to get over him I have been lying to myself and this is preventing me from moving forward.  I am not over him. I still love him.  And this is okay to admit.  The relationship ending is not a failure on my part.  I was fortunate to experience love.  The hope I experienced during this relationship proves that I want good things for me.

Now I can say yes, I love him but it’s over.  This opens me up to love – and the hope that the gift of love will come again.

And when it does I will let you know. 

In the meantime here is the super yum recipe for my feel better cupcakes. 

Preheat oven to 350 degrees (gas mark 4)

1cup unsalted butter (not margarine)

1cup sugar (not quite filled to the top)

Mix butter and sugar together for 3 mins (no less) until fluffy and creamy

2 eggs – mix again for 30 sec

1 cup of self – raising flour – and a 1/ 4 cup more

Almost ½ cup of carnation milk (evaporated milk) and then add vanilla extract – enough to fill the ¼cup to the brim

Mix together on slow until all mixed in.

 

Pour into cupcake holders and bake in centre of oven for 12 mins – or until knife comes out of the cupcakes clean.

 

Cool and eat warm or add frosting.

Nad’s frosting                                                   

½ cup unsalted butter

Mix butter on high until creamy

Add 2 cups of icing sugar

Add ¼ cup carnation milk

Mix until well blended.

Add more icing sugar and vanilla extract until desired consistency and taste.

Add pink colouring – because pink is best.

Top with silver balls –  (because looks really pretty and will make you smile)

Enjoy with tea and Being Lara!

xoxo

Nadine

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s Been a While…

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I’M BACK!

Hello All,

It’s been a while…

So what has happened in the last month or so?   

Well, those of you who didn’t know, my fourth published book, ‘Being Lara’ was released in America! So, the events and stuff that  followed (plus just being a bit worn out in general) may have prevented me from updating this Blog… So erm.. here’s a quick rundown of Lola’s World over the last few weeks…

My book at Atlanta airport!!

Book launch dinner

Blog tours                                                

My Book in a Target store Atlanta!!

Reading lots of reviews including one from the influential Publisher’s Weekly. Receiving a lovely review from ‘the industry’ is just as special as from a reader as it means your colleagues also respect what you have written.

And I finally bought a copy of Ebony magazine!  Opening it up to see my book right there inside of a publication I have admired for years- priceless.

The emails from readers have been so very touching and lovely. As I have said before, when I write a book, I’m sort of writing it for me… so to then have people read it (that always shocks me) AND to feel compelled to take the time out to write to me..? That just takes my breath away.

So thank you.

And then I went to Atlanta this month and well…. I SAW MY BOOKS IN THE STORES. TOUCHED THEM ON THE SHELVES AND POSED GORMLESSLY WITH THEM!

That was fun.

Most notably, were the stores Target and Barnes and Noble.   I also got to meet the author Eric Jerome Dickey whose review just happens to be on the same page as mine in Ebony magazine this month. It felt nice to hand him over a copy as he hadn’t yet seen it. And the  biggest shock of all? Seeing my book in Atlanta airport! I was on my way back to England and decided to browse the books and I SAW BEING LARA ON A TABLE JUST ABOVE SIDNEY SHELDON’S.

Deep breath, deep breath.

The lovely sales assistant took some photos of me ‘posing’ with my book and this was a fitting end to a rather lovely stay  in  sunny Atlanta.

So apologies for going back on my promise to update this Blog a little more regularly (but posting this today means I at least get one post in for April - tee hee).

The Guest Blogs will be coming back next month so stay tuned and if you haven’t got a copy of Being Lara yet… what are you waiting for?

“But we can’t buy it in England yet!” I hear some of you cry…

Erm…